The Selective preload option in the Open Scene options opens the Preload Reference Editor
Use the Preload Reference Editor when you want select specific file references to be loaded or unloaded when the scene is opened.
To selectively load file and proxy references using the Preload Reference Editor
Turn on Preserve load state of nested references in the options menu
The file browser appears, listing the default scene directory for your project.
The Preload Reference Editor appears. The Preload Reference Editor lists all available file references for the scene. Depending on how the Referencing options were set, some file references will appear loaded or unloaded in the Preload Reference Editor. When an icon appears beside a particular file reference it indicates that one or more proxy references exist for that reference.
You can set whether the load status of the parent reference affects the load status of the child references nested beneath with the Preserve load state of nested references option in the Options menu at the top of the editor. The default is off, and toggling the load status of a reference affects the load status of any child references within it.
It is possible to set the load or active state for multiple proxies simultaneously when using the Preload Reference Editor. The list of proxy tags that appear in Set Active Proxy To submenu (when multiple file references are selected) is generated from all of the proxy tags currently in use for the proxy sets associated with the selected file references.